Mom Jeans: You Don’t Have To Wear Them
Mom Jeans are cheap, soft and comfortable, but their very high waist, generous cut around the derriere and thighs and tapered leg opening are extremely unflattering.
The term “mom jeans” was introduced as part of a hilarious Saturday Night Live commercial with an unforgettable tag line: “This Mother’s Day, don’t give Mom that bottle of perfume. Give her something that says, ‘I’m not a woman anymore. I’m a mom!”
Apparently, some moms really do feel that dressing in a way that’s figure-flattering is inappropriate for a mom. That “if you’re not martyring yourself, and that extends to your physical appearance, then you’re not doing your job as a parent.”
But do we really have to choose between being a “mother” and being a “woman?” A mother is also a woman and a person. A mother can be stylish and fabulous and sexy and interesting. A mother can have an engaging conversation that is not centered on child rearing and a mother can wear clothes that are young and flatter her figure.
Of course, a mother can choose to wear mom jeans if she feels comfortable in them and is not interested, or is opposed to, following fashion dictation and being fashionable or trendy. Either way, it’s a personal choice that should not be dictated by social norms and expectations.
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Jill responds:
Posted: March 5th, 2008 at 11:02 am →
I probably do dress differently now that I’m a mom. There are things I would wear when going out but not to mu kids’ school, so that’s an important distinction as well. Not so much “mom appropriate” as “school appropriate”.
But I do not own mom jeans and have no plans on going that route anytime soon.
ironman responds:
Posted: March 5th, 2008 at 12:15 pm →
Those jeans are gross. Moms can be as hot as anyone. Why give up on yourself just because you have kids?
Jen responds:
Posted: March 5th, 2008 at 3:35 pm →
I think you do need to look “appropriate” at your kids’ school. But mom jeans is not appropriate – it’s just ugly.
hyrcan responds:
Posted: June 24th, 2008 at 8:08 am →
Personally I don’t think it should matter what people wear. We each have our own sense of style, tastes and standards. Wear ‘mom jeans’ if you want. Wear a short skirt. It shouldn’t matter.
The problem lies in the why. Why are you choosing to wear those pants? Is it because you feel that as a mother you aren’t allowed to look (and in some cases feel) attractive? Are you wearing that mini-skirt because you want to meet the social ideal of beauty?
As you can see the why behind what we wear, or expect others to wear is a bigger problem than what we actually have on.
And it certainly isn’t limited to women who have had children.
Though I do think there is something that is limited to them and it’s this idea that when a woman has a child they cease to be a woman and suddenly become some strange creature called a “Mom” devoid any of the feelings, needs, desires of a woman.
Although the situation you are in needs to be taken in consideration and appropriate attire is suggested. You shouldn’t wear the same dress at the kid’s school that you’d wear out at a dance club. Though as others pointed out that’s not a matter of being “mom appropriate” but of being “school appropriate.”
“A mother can be stylish and fabulous and sexy and interesting.” Without a doubt.
MomGrind responds:
Posted: June 24th, 2008 at 12:21 pm →
@ Jill: I agree with “school appropriate”.
@ ironman: “Why give up on yourself just because you have kids?” – I agree.
@ Jen: It’s true that you don’t need to wear unflattering clothes in order to look appropriate.
@ hyrcan: “Though I do think there is something that is limited to them and it’s this idea that when a woman has a child they cease to be a woman and suddenly become some strange creature called a “Mom” devoid any of the feelings, needs, desires of a woman.” EXACTLY. And I don’t think a mother should feel this way!
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b. henson responds:
Posted: August 7th, 2009 at 2:22 pm →
if she still has a very shapely backside, what’s wrong?