Comments on: Co-Sleeping: Is It Bad For Our Kids? http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/co-sleeping/ Sat, 05 May 2012 12:03:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/co-sleeping/#comment-3305 MomGrind Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:36:26 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/study-co-sleeping-causes-long-term-damage-to-children/#comment-3305 Shoshana: I do believe that each family should do what works for them. Studies are often biased and for almost every study you can find another study that says the opposite. Shoshana: I do believe that each family should do what works for them. Studies are often biased and for almost every study you can find another study that says the opposite.

]]> By: Shoshana http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/co-sleeping/#comment-514 Shoshana Wed, 23 Apr 2008 19:08:58 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/study-co-sleeping-causes-long-term-damage-to-children/#comment-514 My children all sleep with me until they're about 3 years old. It works for me, and so far, my 3rd child is overweight by 20 pounds maybe...but he's not anywhere near obese. Interesting study, but I don't think we should hang great things to lack of sleep. My children all sleep with me until they’re about 3 years old. It works for me, and so far, my 3rd child is overweight by 20 pounds maybe…but he’s not anywhere near obese.

Interesting study, but I don’t think we should hang great things to lack of sleep.

]]> By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/co-sleeping/#comment-492 MomGrind Tue, 22 Apr 2008 04:01:29 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/study-co-sleeping-causes-long-term-damage-to-children/#comment-492 Hey Amy, Thanks for your thoughtful comment. Obviously, my title was meant as an attention-getter. I think the article does make a connection between responding to your child at night and creating sleep problems, that may later on cause behavior and weight issues. I do agree that since studies tend to be contradicting and confusing, it is best to follow our instincts and do what is best for us. Hey Amy,
Thanks for your thoughtful comment.
Obviously, my title was meant as an attention-getter.
I think the article does make a connection between responding to your child at night and creating sleep problems, that may later on cause behavior and weight issues.

I do agree that since studies tend to be contradicting and confusing, it is best to follow our instincts and do what is best for us.

]]> By: Crunchy Domestic Goddess http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/co-sleeping/#comment-491 Crunchy Domestic Goddess Tue, 22 Apr 2008 03:42:46 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/study-co-sleeping-causes-long-term-damage-to-children/#comment-491 I have to say I wasn't really fond of the title of your post (since that's not what I took away from the original article), but it certainly was attention-getting. From the original article, "Two additional reports, also appearing in the current issue of Archives of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine, suggest that children's sleeplessness may be associated with an increased risk of being overweight and having emotional and behavioral difficulties in adolescence and adulthood." So it seems to me they are saying that if children are not getting enough sleep, that could lead to an increased risk of being overweight in adulthood, not that co-sleeping causes it. And I wonder if aboriginal people who co-sleep with their children find that their kids do not sleep well, enough hours or are overweight as adults? Just food for thought. ;) Everyone is entitled to their opinion and to do what they believe is best for their child and their family. Regardless of what *this* study says, I will continue to follow my instincts with regard to parenting both in the day time and at night. It works for us. :) For the record, 10 years ago another Harvard study showed that letting children cry may lead to more fears and tears among adults. And, from another study (4 years ago): "A mental health expert warns that fashionable advice to ignore your child’s tears may cause lifelong harm." http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2005/02/26/everyone-likes-to-feel-validated/ It's hard to know who to trust, that's why I say go with your gut. :) I have to say I wasn’t really fond of the title of your post (since that’s not what I took away from the original article), but it certainly was attention-getting. From the original article, “Two additional reports, also appearing in the current issue of Archives of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine, suggest that children’s sleeplessness may be associated with an increased risk of being overweight and having emotional and behavioral difficulties in adolescence and adulthood.” So it seems to me they are saying that if children are not getting enough sleep, that could lead to an increased risk of being overweight in adulthood, not that co-sleeping causes it. And I wonder if aboriginal people who co-sleep with their children find that their kids do not sleep well, enough hours or are overweight as adults? Just food for thought. ;)

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and to do what they believe is best for their child and their family. Regardless of what *this* study says, I will continue to follow my instincts with regard to parenting both in the day time and at night. It works for us. :)

For the record, 10 years ago another Harvard study showed that letting children cry may lead to more fears and tears among adults. And, from another study (4 years ago): “A mental health expert warns that fashionable advice to ignore your child’s tears may cause lifelong harm.” http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2005/02/26/everyone-likes-to-feel-validated/

It’s hard to know who to trust, that’s why I say go with your gut. :)

]]> By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/co-sleeping/#comment-489 MomGrind Mon, 21 Apr 2008 22:58:58 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/study-co-sleeping-causes-long-term-damage-to-children/#comment-489 @ Jill: smooch. :) @ Lia: I accept that people do self-soothe, although the question is - how early should self soothing start? 6 months? 18 months? I also think it's important to understand when it's a "sad" or "scared" crying and when it's a "habit" or "feel like seeing mom" crying. I trust that parents can tell the difference when it comes to their own kids. @ Jill: smooch. :)

@ Lia: I accept that people do self-soothe, although the question is – how early should self soothing start? 6 months? 18 months? I also think it’s important to understand when it’s a “sad” or “scared” crying and when it’s a “habit” or “feel like seeing mom” crying. I trust that parents can tell the difference when it comes to their own kids.

]]> By: Lia http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/co-sleeping/#comment-488 Lia Mon, 21 Apr 2008 21:27:08 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/study-co-sleeping-causes-long-term-damage-to-children/#comment-488 I agree with most that you have to do what's right for your family. Where I disagree with you is where you say that you don't self soothe because I don't believe that. Everyone does. You are down so you watch TV or read. You feel shitty so you get a pedicure or a cup of coffee. we all do it. yes we rely on others at times but not always. We let our child cry because at some point is habit. They aren't really hungry but just want to see mom. Sorry but I don't think that is healthy for anyone. I don't wake my husband in the middle of night to help get me back to sleep. Just a difference point of view. I agree with most that you have to do what’s right for your family. Where I disagree with you is where you say that you don’t self soothe because I don’t believe that. Everyone does. You are down so you watch TV or read. You feel shitty so you get a pedicure or a cup of coffee. we all do it. yes we rely on others at times but not always. We let our child cry because at some point is habit. They aren’t really hungry but just want to see mom. Sorry but I don’t think that is healthy for anyone. I don’t wake my husband in the middle of night to help get me back to sleep.

Just a difference point of view.

]]> By: Jill http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/co-sleeping/#comment-485 Jill Mon, 21 Apr 2008 19:30:07 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/04/21/study-co-sleeping-causes-long-term-damage-to-children/#comment-485 If you take down this post, I will lose all respect for you. It's bad enough that you are in the habit of writing personal posts, then taking them down after a few days. This is a legitimate point of view. I let my own kids cry, and I am in no way offended by what you have said. It's your opinion. Stand behind it. If you take down this post, I will lose all respect for you. It’s bad enough that you are in the habit of writing personal posts, then taking them down after a few days. This is a legitimate point of view. I let my own kids cry, and I am in no way offended by what you have said. It’s your opinion. Stand behind it.

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