Comments on: Why Won’t You Post Photos of Your Kids? http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/ a Mommy blogger Wannabe Sun, 07 Sep 2008 17:40:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-2681 MomGrind Sat, 09 Aug 2008 17:53:00 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-2681 @ <strong>Bonnie</strong>: "as readership increases" - exactly. And, even if we feel we have a small audience, this is on the Internet and the audience has no limits, really. @ <strong>c gonzales</strong>: "You can still talk about your kids and not share their photos." This might be a good solution. @ <strong>Sarah</strong>: "I always go with my gut" - I try to do that, too. @ <strong>Kat:</strong> "I think it would almost be nice to have a blog that keeps only 1 weeks worth of posts available. Then a blog is more like a medium of communication for the here and now." What an interesting idea! Still, Google will index and cache it... so again, you won't be able to truly erase it. @ Bonnie: “as readership increases” - exactly. And, even if we feel we have a small audience, this is on the Internet and the audience has no limits, really.

@ c gonzales: “You can still talk about your kids and not share their photos.” This might be a good solution.

@ Sarah: “I always go with my gut” - I try to do that, too.

@ Kat: “I think it would almost be nice to have a blog that keeps only 1 weeks worth of posts available. Then a blog is more like a medium of communication for the here and now.” What an interesting idea! Still, Google will index and cache it… so again, you won’t be able to truly erase it.

]]> By: kat http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-2542 kat Wed, 06 Aug 2008 09:33:25 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-2542 Ya know, the problem I have with posting about your life, about your family, (in a completely open fashion) is that you are basically giving anyone (ANYONE) access, and without context, to YEARS of your (and your families') life. It reminds me of leaving your house unlocked and with a big arrow pointing at it. And it's all great, the sharing, the atmosphere, until the day you find something missing (or something else creepy or bad). I don't feel it's very safe. Alot of things that aren't safe are fun, it's just a matter of what risks you are willing to take. I think it would almost be nice to have a blog that keeps only 1 weeks worth of posts available. Then a blog is more like a medium of communication for the here and now. kat's last blog post..<a href="http://kathybou.wordpress.com/2008/07/31/gym/" rel="nofollow">@ Gym</a> Ya know, the problem I have with posting about your life, about your family, (in a completely open fashion) is that you are basically giving anyone (ANYONE) access, and without context, to YEARS of your (and your families’) life. It reminds me of leaving your house unlocked and with a big arrow pointing at it. And it’s all great, the sharing, the atmosphere, until the day you find something missing (or something else creepy or bad). I don’t feel it’s very safe. Alot of things that aren’t safe are fun, it’s just a matter of what risks you are willing to take.

I think it would almost be nice to have a blog that keeps only 1 weeks worth of posts available. Then a blog is more like a medium of communication for the here and now.

kat’s last blog post..@ Gym

]]> By: Sarah http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-1054 Sarah Sat, 31 May 2008 00:24:08 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-1054 I am totally where you're at. I used to blog a personal blog and I did occasionally post photos of my kids there. I plan to relaunch that one again soon, but my gut tells me not reveal too much about my kids - esp photos, and I always go with my gut, so... Great post, Vered! I am liking your blog. :) I am totally where you’re at. I used to blog a personal blog and I did occasionally post photos of my kids there. I plan to relaunch that one again soon, but my gut tells me not reveal too much about my kids - esp photos, and I always go with my gut, so…

Great post, Vered! I am liking your blog. :)

]]> By: c gonzales http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-754 c gonzales Wed, 14 May 2008 08:32:30 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-754 This was a dilemma when I started blogging. But after awhile, I decided to post her photos. I still don't know if I did the right thing. You don't have to do it if you're not comfortable. You can still talk about your kids and not share their photos. This was a dilemma when I started blogging. But after awhile, I decided to post her photos. I still don’t know if I did the right thing. You don’t have to do it if you’re not comfortable. You can still talk about your kids and not share their photos.

]]> By: Bonnie http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-732 Bonnie Mon, 12 May 2008 16:26:26 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-732 I have been thinking about the same question. At first, I didn't mind posting his pics. But, as readership increases, I seem to keep rethinking it to ask myself if I still want to do it. I'm not sure. But your post made me think about it even more! Thanks for a great post! I have been thinking about the same question. At first, I didn’t mind posting his pics. But, as readership increases, I seem to keep rethinking it to ask myself if I still want to do it. I’m not sure. But your post made me think about it even more! Thanks for a great post!

]]> By: My Name Is Vered, And I’m a Mommyblogger Wannabe - MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-724 My Name Is Vered, And I’m a Mommyblogger Wannabe - MomGrind Mon, 12 May 2008 11:04:41 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-724 [...] Friday’s little discussion, it occurred to me that just like Denise, I love mommybloggers, and want to be a mommyblogger, but [...] […] Friday’s little discussion, it occurred to me that just like Denise, I love mommybloggers, and want to be a mommyblogger, but […]

]]> By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-714 MomGrind Sun, 11 May 2008 06:23:14 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-714 @ Kelly: Thank you for your encouraging words. I do doubt myself, a lot (isn’t that a favorite female pastime?). Maybe I should learn to just follow my gut, like you do. “I don’t really think there is a right or wrong way here, it’s a decision that’s as personal as the act of parenting itself” – I completely agree. @ Chris: I think it’s great that you are making your family a part of your blog. I agree that the negative comments were made by people outside of the blogging community. There seems to be a double standard: after the infamous Dooce interview on the Today Show, many bloggers pointed out that Kathie Lee Gifford raised the question of exposing one’s kids in a blog, when she never hesitated to expose her own kids on national television. @ Kelly: Thank you for your encouraging words. I do doubt myself, a lot (isn’t that a favorite female pastime?). Maybe I should learn to just follow my gut, like you do.
“I don’t really think there is a right or wrong way here, it’s a decision that’s as personal as the act of parenting itself” – I completely agree.

@ Chris: I think it’s great that you are making your family a part of your blog.
I agree that the negative comments were made by people outside of the blogging community. There seems to be a double standard: after the infamous Dooce interview on the Today Show, many bloggers pointed out that Kathie Lee Gifford raised the question of exposing one’s kids in a blog, when she never hesitated to expose her own kids on national television.

]]> By: Chris http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-713 Chris Sun, 11 May 2008 04:53:29 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-713 I'm fortunate that my children are very supportive about my blog (my number one fans). We do have an agreement that whenever I am going to post something very personal about them that I will ask for their permission first and that if I post something that they don't like, I will take the post down. While I'm the main writer, editor and final decision of Wat Da Wat? I don't have sole ownership. I long with my children and wife own my blog together because I have always maintained that what's mine is there's. I've also been following the issue with regards to mommy bloggers blogging about their children. My take on this is that those who left negative comments regarding this issue are not really part of the community anyway, they are just passers by. The true members of the blogging community are usually understanding and kind because they know what's going on. So, that being said, don't sweat it and HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all the mommy bloggers out there. I’m fortunate that my children are very supportive about my blog (my number one fans). We do have an agreement that whenever I am going to post something very personal about them that I will ask for their permission first and that if I post something that they don’t like, I will take the post down.

While I’m the main writer, editor and final decision of Wat Da Wat? I don’t have sole ownership. I long with my children and wife own my blog together because I have always maintained that what’s mine is there’s.

I’ve also been following the issue with regards to mommy bloggers blogging about their children. My take on this is that those who left negative comments regarding this issue are not really part of the community anyway, they are just passers by. The true members of the blogging community are usually understanding and kind because they know what’s going on.

So, that being said, don’t sweat it and HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to all the mommy bloggers out there.

]]> By: Kelly@SHE-POWER http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-711 Kelly@SHE-POWER Sat, 10 May 2008 11:18:18 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-711 Personally I am sick of thinking "what kind of blogger am I?" Who cares whether you're a mommy blogger or a chick blogger or a parenting blogger. I still think loyal readers come from people connecting with you as an individual, and if you write true to you and stick with it your blog will grow nicely. Now, as for your kids and photos, I think you are completely doing the right thing because you are following your instincts. It doesn't feel right to blog about the kids or post photos so you shouldn't! I don't really think there is a right or wrong way here, it's a decision that's as personal as the act of parenting itself. I post the odd photo but don't use real names and I don't give many details out about my son. That feels okay for me. My son is only 4 and changes constantly so I don't see the odd image as a problem. I'm not even sure why I don't use his name, maybe that's safety, I don't know. My husband and son do have different names to mine so they do have a reasonable level of privacy with my blog (I have okayed everything personal I have ever written with my husband). But mostly I just use my gut and I think if you follow yours then you'll be fine. And this blog is good reading whatever you're doing so keep it up. :) Kelly Personally I am sick of thinking “what kind of blogger am I?” Who cares whether you’re a mommy blogger or a chick blogger or a parenting blogger. I still think loyal readers come from people connecting with you as an individual, and if you write true to you and stick with it your blog will grow nicely.

Now, as for your kids and photos, I think you are completely doing the right thing because you are following your instincts. It doesn’t feel right to blog about the kids or post photos so you shouldn’t! I don’t really think there is a right or wrong way here, it’s a decision that’s as personal as the act of parenting itself.

I post the odd photo but don’t use real names and I don’t give many details out about my son. That feels okay for me. My son is only 4 and changes constantly so I don’t see the odd image as a problem. I’m not even sure why I don’t use his name, maybe that’s safety, I don’t know. My husband and son do have different names to mine so they do have a reasonable level of privacy with my blog (I have okayed everything personal I have ever written with my husband). But mostly I just use my gut and I think if you follow yours then you’ll be fine. And this blog is good reading whatever you’re doing so keep it up.

:) Kelly

]]> By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-710 MomGrind Sat, 10 May 2008 03:42:46 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/09/why-wont-you-post-photos-of-your-kids/#comment-710 @ Marelisa: thank you for the encouraging words. @ Shilpan: I absolutely love having you as a loyal reader. :) @ Evelyn Lim: “I guess, in the end, it is most important to do what you feel comfortable with. Maybe there’ll come a time when you find it necessary to, because of your article’s topic.” Completely agree. @ Marelisa: thank you for the encouraging words.

@ Shilpan: I absolutely love having you as a loyal reader. :)

@ Evelyn Lim: “I guess, in the end, it is most important to do what you feel comfortable with. Maybe there’ll come a time when you find it necessary to, because of your article’s topic.” Completely agree.

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