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]]> By: D http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5216 D Mon, 06 Oct 2008 22:25:13 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5216 I agree with you wholeheartedly on this one, Vered. Anorexia's a bad, bad thing. Everybody has neuroses, but not everyone's neuroses can potentially kill them. That said, a lot of people make jokes about anorexia, and they can be funny (in the right company, jokes about lots of things that can kill you, like AIDS, can be funny). Most people aren't consciously being callous when they do it. With regard to the fashion model pictured, I'd be careful about calling her anorexic too. I think bulimia is the more prevalent eating disorder/ weight management neurosis among the fashion class. The good thing, as someone pointed out, is that when someone makes a comment like the one the waitress made to you, it shows that there is societal awareness of anorexia. I fully support people who want to take care of their bodies in a healthy manner. Appearance can be a motivating factor, but health should come first. I agree with you wholeheartedly on this one, Vered. Anorexia’s a bad, bad thing. Everybody has neuroses, but not everyone’s neuroses can potentially kill them.

That said, a lot of people make jokes about anorexia, and they can be funny (in the right company, jokes about lots of things that can kill you, like AIDS, can be funny). Most people aren’t consciously being callous when they do it.

With regard to the fashion model pictured, I’d be careful about calling her anorexic too. I think bulimia is the more prevalent eating disorder/ weight management neurosis among the fashion class.

The good thing, as someone pointed out, is that when someone makes a comment like the one the waitress made to you, it shows that there is societal awareness of anorexia. I fully support people who want to take care of their bodies in a healthy manner. Appearance can be a motivating factor, but health should come first.

]]> By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5192 MomGrind Mon, 06 Oct 2008 17:11:43 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5192 @ Nurit: "but a quick look in the synonym feature on Word suggest “mold”, mock-up (which is also “fake”)". Interesting! @ Nurit: “but a quick look in the synonym feature on Word suggest “mold”, mock-up (which is also “fake”)”. Interesting!

]]> By: Nurit http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5191 Nurit Mon, 06 Oct 2008 17:10:19 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5191 I think it's one thing to be thin, and it is another thing to show "models" who are to thin and making poeple, especially young girls, believe it is normal, and they should, look like that. I don't it that people are making money either frombeing such a bad "model" and from adrevtising it. This is not good role modeling. Maybe they should find a differnet name for it instead of "model". i don't have any good word for it at the monent... hmm, but a quick look in the synonym feature on Word suggest "mold", mock-up (which is also "fake") Nurit's last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/FamilyFriendlyFood/~3/411322193/try-something-new-acorn-squash.html" rel="nofollow">Try something new: Acorn squash</a> I think it’s one thing to be thin, and it is another thing to show “models” who are to thin and making poeple, especially young girls, believe it is normal, and they should, look like that.
I don’t it that people are making money either frombeing such a bad “model” and from adrevtising it.
This is not good role modeling.
Maybe they should find a differnet name for it instead of “model”. i don’t have any good word for it at the monent…
hmm, but a quick look in the synonym feature on Word suggest “mold”, mock-up (which is also “fake”)

Nurit’s last blog post..Try something new: Acorn squash

]]> By: Baldi http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5182 Baldi Mon, 06 Oct 2008 16:03:24 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5182 hehe, I wish people would leave me alone with a nice pizza with all the toppings ;) hehe, I wish people would leave me alone with a nice pizza with all the toppings ;)

]]> By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5150 MomGrind Mon, 06 Oct 2008 00:59:20 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5150 @ baldi: I wish people would just leave each other alone. :) @ Tracey: Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I can't believe the doctor said it was a disgusting habit! It's not disgusting, and it's not a habit. It's a disease. @ baldi: I wish people would just leave each other alone. :)

@ Tracey: Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I can’t believe the doctor said it was a disgusting habit! It’s not disgusting, and it’s not a habit. It’s a disease.

]]> By: Trace http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5140 Trace Sun, 05 Oct 2008 21:43:59 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5140 I am not surprised someone would say something like this, though it is sad. I actually have struggled with Bulimia for many years, and have hid it from almost everyone except my family and my counselor. I am of quite average size and I exercise regularly. Few people understand the complexities of eating disorders. Unfortunately, many people discuss the disease openly in front of me, with their naive comments and "extensive knowledge" of the disorder. I was actually in a graduate class recently when a girl informed the crowd that "all girls with Bulimia grow mustaches!" The most humiliating experience I had, was when a doctor, during a new patient interview, found that I had struggled with bulimia, he responded "Why?! That is such a disgusting habit!" He didn't pass the interview. I am not surprised someone would say something like this, though it is sad. I actually have struggled with Bulimia for many years, and have hid it from almost everyone except my family and my counselor. I am of quite average size and I exercise regularly. Few people understand the complexities of eating disorders. Unfortunately, many people discuss the disease openly in front of me, with their naive comments and “extensive knowledge” of the disorder. I was actually in a graduate class recently when a girl informed the crowd that “all girls with Bulimia grow mustaches!” The most humiliating experience I had, was when a doctor, during a new patient interview, found that I had struggled with bulimia, he responded “Why?! That is such a disgusting habit!” He didn’t pass the interview.

]]> By: Baldi http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5015 Baldi Thu, 02 Oct 2008 05:48:23 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-5015 17 years ago I was hounded about being underweight. Now I am hounded about being overweight. I am just .... hounded. :) 17 years ago I was hounded about being underweight. Now I am hounded about being overweight. I am just …. hounded.

:)

]]> By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-4707 MomGrind Thu, 25 Sep 2008 03:10:59 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-4707 Thank you Lilith. Anorexia is a terrible disease. I don't know why people started using the term to describe thinness. They are not the same. Thank you Lilith. Anorexia is a terrible disease. I don’t know why people started using the term to describe thinness. They are not the same.

]]> By: Lilith http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-4706 Lilith Thu, 25 Sep 2008 02:35:28 +0000 http://momgrind.com/2008/05/27/please-use-discretion-when-slapping-the-word-anorexic-on-someone/#comment-4706 You are not anorexic you are slender. It's just another body type among millions. You look healthy. Especially in comparison with the poor woman in the picture. Anorexics tend to have no muscle tone because they have lost lean muscle mass along with the natural fat layer beneath the skin ( The woman in the picture has had breast augmentation, The breasts shrink and sag when a woman starves.). The anorexic fears food, and may even exercise to the point of injury. The anorexic usually has dry skin and brittle hair. The anorexic may also suffer heart problems, and other problems related to electrolite imbalance. Anorexics have trouble regulating body temperature due to the lack of an insulating fat layer. The anorexic suffers from disturbed body image. (Disturbed body image is a nursing diagosis by the way.) No matter how much weight they lose, They see them selves as over weight. Any one who tries to tell them different is looked upon with suspicion. I'm sorry to see that you were misdiagnosed by a well meaning but clueless individual. You have a lovely smile. Sincerely, Lilith You are not anorexic you are slender. It’s just another body type among millions. You look healthy. Especially in comparison with the poor woman in the picture.
Anorexics tend to have no muscle tone because they have lost lean muscle mass along with the natural fat layer beneath the skin ( The woman in the picture has had breast augmentation, The breasts shrink and sag when a woman starves.). The anorexic fears food, and may even exercise to the point of injury. The anorexic usually has dry skin and brittle hair. The anorexic may also suffer heart problems, and other problems related to electrolite imbalance. Anorexics have trouble regulating body temperature due to the lack of an insulating fat layer. The anorexic suffers from disturbed body image. (Disturbed body image is a nursing diagosis by the way.) No matter how much weight they lose, They see them selves as over weight. Any one who tries to tell them different is looked upon with suspicion.
I’m sorry to see that you were misdiagnosed by a well meaning but clueless individual.
You have a lovely smile.
Sincerely,
Lilith

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