Comments on: Anorexia Is A Harsh Label

By: MomGrind

MomGrind — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 01:27:08 +0000

@ Clair: “If strangers comment on your body, I agree you have every right to be offended. However, I would listen to friends and family if they address concern about your behavior regarding food.” I couldn’t have said it better. Thank you.

By: Clair

Clair — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 22:02:48 +0000

I do not know enough about you to say whether you are anorexic but your arguments against the being anorexic do not convince me either.
Did you know that anorexics are harder to treat than bulemics because anorexics do not admit that they have a problem? Likewise, aneroxics can recognize that other anorexics are too thin but cannot see this in themselves.
If strangers comment on your body, I agree you have every right to be offended. However, I would listen to friends and family if they address concern about your behavior regarding food.
I certainly hope that you do not have a problem and are healthy both physically and emotionally!.

By: MomGrind

MomGrind — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 05:02:10 +0000

@ Missy: How sad that you are so quick to judge people. You don’t know me and you obviously never bothered to read anything in this blog beyond this post (or you would have realized I love food and am blessed with a wonderful family and great friends), yet you decided that I am anorexic and lonely (“How sad for the people, or lack of people in your life”).

Re my “stats”, I am 5′-6”. I don’t know how much I weigh right now because I don’t weigh myself at home, but at the doctor’s office my weight can be anywhere from 115 lbs to 120 lbs. Right now I’m guessing I am closer to 120lbs – I seem to have put on some weight since the photo was taken last year. I’ll know for sure in June – I schedule my checkups for the month of my birthday.

@ Diffy: I agree! Ideally we shouldn’t care about labels, especially when used by strangers.

@ Rebeca: You’re absolutely right. “Missy” is obviously OK with judging and labeling people even tough she knows absolutely nothing about them.

By: Rebeca

Rebeca — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 20:42:47 +0000

I don’t think she looks anorexic at all! She has muscle tone. My ex was anorexic and she looked way thinner than the woman who posted this. In her picture she doesn’t have protruding veins or dull hair.
I think her point in posting this blog was to vent, not draw attention to herself and say “Hey! Look at me!! How do you think I look?”
Your weight does not reveal an eating disorder, your actions do and since you aren’t around to see her actions I don’t think you can accurately label the poster of this blog anorexic.

By: Diffy

Diffy — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 05:19:57 +0000

Labels, labels, labels …

Who cares about labels? Especially those by strangers?

Live your life and be happy:)

By: Missy

Missy — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 00:31:50 +0000

Well, looking at your photo, I would say your are anorexic. Eating food is what nourishes your body. By accidently skipping meals, etc, you are ignoring your bodies signal to feed itself. I believe you are in denial about your illness. I can tell by your legs that you are abnormally thin. The way you dress, you are wanting people to look at your protruding bones and veins. I have seen this over an over again.
Instead of trying to look as if you are not anorexic, try to focus on your health and what your body needs. In time you will heal. I find it weird that you would go to all this trouble to prove that you are not anorexic. I think that by putting so much energy into this blog, you are trying to convince yourself that your are not anorexic. There is such a stigma with being thin, “Look at me, everyone look at me!” Women think that when they are thin, they must be ok, beautiful. I would rather be a normal weight and have nice shiny, healthy hair, vibrant eyes, clear skin, and fun smile. Skinny women with dull skin with protruding veins, sunken eyes, thinning hair, and a overall look of, “Do you think I am beautiful?” When you try that hard, people look at you and say, “Gross”. What counts is how your feel about yourself, not how you look. What counts is your relationships with people and family, not your relationship with you ego self. What counts is how you believe in yourself, now what others think.
By posting your blog, you are obsessed with you, and only you. How sad for the people, or lack of people in your life. Maybe by people telling you what they see, you will listen.
I notice you did not post your weight or height, only saying your doctor says you are a normal weight.

By: MomGrind

MomGrind — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 22:18:33 +0000

@ Jese: Wow. I can’t imagine how frustrating it must be for you. I hope you find a doctor that actually listens to you. Those are, unfortunately, rare.

By: Jese

Jese — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 22:06:48 +0000

Just wanted to put in my 2c here. I have dealt with organic eating problems off and on for a problem. It is not that I attempt to lose weight or starve myself; I simply have physical problems that make eating hard. One of the biggest barriers to medical treatment has been the assumption of an eating disorder. As a young woman, when I report that I cannot eat because of my physical reactions I find it extremely condescending to have it assumed that I must be intentionally starving myself to lose weight.

By: MomGrind

MomGrind — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:02:42 +0000

@ D: “Appearance can be a motivating factor, but health should come first.” I completely agree.

@ Rebeca: People throw around the word “anorexic” way too casually. It’s almost become interchangeable with “skinny,” but it shouldn’t be.

“I exercise daily and I eat right, this does NOT mean I have an eating disorder.” – exactly.

By: Rebeca

Rebeca — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 16:55:03 +0000

Thank you so much for taking the time out to write this! I really feel your situation. Everyone in my family is overweight and I just happen to be really thin. I take after my grandfather who is half Japanese and I have a tiny frame. Since I am only about 5′3″ and weigh 115 people always accuse me of being anorexic and it really bothers me. I wish people would realize how serious eating disorders are and stop pinning them on me just because I am a health nut. I exercise daily and I eat right, this does NOT mean I have an eating disorder.
You look GREAT by the way!