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I published a guest post over at Zen Habits: How To Be A Great Mom – 12 Awesome Tips.
Needless to say, I am excited, but since Leo usually doesn’t moderate his comments, I’m also a little scared of his trolls.
Would you guys do me a favor and go over there to show your support in the comments section?
Thank you!
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Scott McIntyre responds:
Posted: July 21st, 2008 at 10:26 pm →
It’s brilliant to see you over at Zen Habits!
Excellent advice on being a fab mom, Vered. You’re all that- and then some
It must be a little like being a juggler, having to balance all the conflicting demands made on you. I hope you manage to grab some “Vered” time every so often… that’s important too, for both yourself and your kids.
I bet you’re a groovy kinda mom to your kids!
MomGrind responds:
Posted: July 21st, 2008 at 10:41 pm →
Hi Scott,
Thank you so much! It is a juggling act for sure. Am I a groovy mom? I don’t know… perhaps, but in a few years, say it to my kids and they will just roll their eyes. Parenting is a thankless job.
It’s almost 11pm here and I am trying to curb my excitement over this guest post and GET SOME SLEEP.
Ann at One Bag Nation responds:
Posted: July 21st, 2008 at 10:57 pm →
Hi Vered, I’m blogging the night away, so I saw zen habits before I came here tonight – how exciting to guest post there!
You’re right, there are some “trolls” in the comments sometimes, but they’re in the minority by far, and I think some of them have issues with Leo in particular, so fear not!
Ann at One Bag Nation’s last blog post..How Long is Your To Do List?
Barbara Swafford responds:
Posted: July 21st, 2008 at 11:09 pm →
Hi Vered,
I don’t think you need to be told, but all of your loyal readers have your back. If the trolls show up, let us know and we’ll go back to ZenHabits and defend you.
Your post was fabulous. Your children are very fortunate to have a mom who has such high values. When they grow up, they’ll make you proud.
Barbara Swafford’s last blog post..NBOTW Author Defends Himself
Marelisa responds:
Posted: July 21st, 2008 at 11:19 pm →
Hi Vered, I was just at zenhabits reading your post and I loved it!
Marelisa’s last blog post..Six Steps to Creating the Life You Really Want
Al at 7P responds:
Posted: July 21st, 2008 at 11:49 pm →
Hi Vered – that’s a pretty fantastic list. It was a great read.
Oh, and I’m subscribed to comments with the Zen Habits article. You know, in case of trolls. I’m sure I’m not the only one as well
.
Al at 7P’s last blog post..How To Work On Something You Hate
Avital responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 2:23 am →
Great post on Zen Habits. As I am not yet a mom myself, a link was sent immediately to a friend who became a mom last week.
I must also comment regarding yesterday’s post. I keep thinking about how come you are such a “foody”, a mom and still have a perfect body without an ounce of fat in it. I am intrigued and in awe
MizFit responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 2:44 am →
done!
and KUDOS TO YOU!!!!
what a neat guest post.
(*bows in awe*)
MizFit’s last blog post..Monday Facetime. Tricep kickback edition.
Zendad responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 5:23 am →
Congratulations Vered on your post over at Zenhabits, very well done. My first time here, although I’m not sure why, I should have stopped by sooner! Great blog! I’ve subscribed!
Zendad
http://www.zendad.net
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Stacey responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 6:33 am →
Great post and I’m glad I was able to find your blog. I appreciate refreshing voices from women who have the passion to help other women deal with life….and who also realize that “helping” doesn’t mean being the expert or having all the answers. The mission (dream) of my blog is to help women (especially moms) balance the demands of being everything to everyone while not losing their sense of self, their needs, and their passions in the process. I also quickly realized that I’d rather ask the questions and explore the world of practicing the art of life balance with my readers instead of acting as the expert. Again, it’s refreshing to know there are other women out on the blogosphere talking about motherhood, life, and sometimes even simple survival.
Stacey’s last blog post..It Takes a Village
Dot H. responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 6:50 am →
Oh, I already did! Don’t you want to also post that article here? Or is that a no-no? I love the photo, too, by the way.
Suzie responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 7:07 am →
IM on my way
Suzie’s last blog post..Lets Play Who’s the Crazy Parent
Joel Falconer responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 7:11 am →
Congratulations, Vered, I’m glad you’re enjoying it! I’ve just been over to Zen Habits and left you some comment love.
Joel Falconer’s last blog post..The Power of Selective Guest Posting
MarciB responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 8:32 am →
Awsome, i could use all the help I can get. Thanks!!
Ryan responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 9:44 am →
Congrats on getting a guest posting…you’ve been working the comments for a long time!
Ryan’s last blog post..Little Angel
Janice Cartier responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 9:51 am →
Vered- What a wonderful surprise at Zen Habits today. I loved your post and not to worry any one who acts badly will be seen for just what they are. I will have to get some Barcelona tips from you sometime. It is on my wish list of places to go. All good wishes. ( That is an adorable raggamuffin in your arms too. Love the photo.)
All best,
Jan
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Dani responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 11:55 am →
Great post! I am a mom as well (only one little guy here!) and it’s nice to see other young moms who share similar values as me and reaffirm that I am some-what on the right track
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As others say, never mind those negative people. This is a place for help and sharing of positive things, and anyone who wants to add negativity instead of just moving on has issues. Please keep writing and know we are eager to hear your side of things.
Urban Panther responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 11:56 am →
Trolls, blog wars. There will always be those who feel the need to toot their own horn through negativity. I wouldn’t give it a second thought. Nice post you did, and I have left my comment there.
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Christina responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 12:23 pm →
Congrats on posting on zenhabits!
Christina’s last blog post..Critical Moments – Quote from Aesop
MomGrind responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 12:39 pm →
@ Ann: Thank you so much for your support!
@ Barbara: Thank you!
As for my kids, I expect lots of whining during their teens but then hopefully they will see that I did my best.
@ Marelisa: Thank you!
@ Al: Thanks… I really do appreciate it.
@ Avital: Well… I workout regularly and have a lot of muscle, which I guess helps. Also, on a daily basis I don’t think I eat a lot – in fact I often forget to eat. I’m not too interested in “regular” food, but I get all excited about new and different tastes and I LOVE to eat out. I guess it all balances out.
@ MizFit: THANK YOU!!!
@ Zendad: Thank you. I love your blog too and have subscribed.
@ Stacey: We think the same. Good luck with your organizing efforts!
@ Dot H.: Thank you so much. I think I will post a link to the article here.
@ Suzie: Thanks smooch.
@ Joel: THANKS. Loved today’s posts, by the way – on your own blog and the guest post.
@ MarciB: You’re very welcome.
@ Ryan: “Working the comments” sounds so calculated! But thank you.
@ Jan: Thank you. Barcelona WAS awesome. You should definitely add it to your list.
@ Dani: Great to hear from a fellow mom! It’s hard work, isn’t it? Thank you so much for the support.
@ Urban Panther: THANK YOU. It’s true… there will always be negativity. I guess I feel “safe” over here in my own little corner of the Internet, but Leo’s blog has so much more exposure that there’s something scary (and of course exciting!) about appearing there.
@ Christina: Thanks!
Sara responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 1:26 pm →
I thought it was a great article!! Congrats!
Ricardo Bueno responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 1:28 pm →
Just got back from reading your post… Congratulations! You’re a fab mom with excellent advice to give! It’s easy to make mistakes and feel guilty about them..so your them on “being good to yourself” is a timely reminder.
I’m not a parent but I have a younger brother and my mother’s always asking me, “am I doing ok? What can I do better?” She’s doing a great job! She just needs a reminder every so often and she also needs to ditch the guilt.
Anyway, great job!
Ricardo Bueno’s last blog post.."The Sky’s the Limit!"
Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 3:33 pm →
Excllent article! Loved the part:
“Be their mom, not their friend. Set limits. In a way, it was easy for previous generations. Parents were parents. Kids were kids. Families were patriarchal. Everyone listened and obeyed to the father. Now, families are democratic. We negotiate, talk things over, and listen to each other. We make important decisions together. This is great, but kids still need us to be their parents and set clear limits. ”
So very very VERY true.
Enjoy, Barbara
Ellen Wilson responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 4:33 pm →
Vered,
Not a problem. I’ll do it now. I’m not afraid of trolls. I wish they would show up at my blog. hehe. I have a trusty word sword. E
Ellen Wilson’s last blog post..Spontaneous Memoir Meme
Cath Lawson responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 5:24 pm →
Hi Vered – Well done. I’m going to check it out right now and I’ll be sure to bash any trolls.
Cath Lawson’s last blog post..Self Confidence – Does Doing Beat Telling?
Lisa Fyfe responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 5:33 pm →
I visited your site after reading your great post on Leo’s blog today, and I love it! I’m a foodie too and love travel posts. I’ll be back!
Great post!
Lisa
Lisa Fyfe’s last blog post..Jul 22, Simplify your Life
Sara responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 7:02 pm →
Hi Vered,
I am a frequent visitor at Zen Habits and now I have found you! Wonderful.
Its an excellent post, I will print it out and refer to it. So many wonderful points.
I am a big fan of the First Things First book by Stephen Covey and I ensure that each week I tune into my kiddies, 2 YO and 6 YO. They love when we do stuff, scooter riding (we bought one for my 6YO and one for an adult). She loves racing me, and we have so much fun together. Its the simple things, not the big overt loud stuff that adults need to have fun.
You go girl. Great work.
Sara
Sarah responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 7:07 pm →
Done! You did good.
Congratulations on landing a guest post there! That is pretty cool in my book.
MomGrind responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 8:23 pm →
@ Sara: Thank you!
@ Ricardo: I agree – your mom needs to ditch the guilt!
@ Barbara Ling: Thank you for your support, Barbara.
@ Ellen: I wish I were more like you… and like Leo, too. He’s totally OK with meanness. I am not. But I am learning.
@ Cath: THANKS!
@ Lisa: Glad you like my blog. Thank you so much.
@ Sara: I will check out First Things First by Stephen Covey. Sounds interesting. Thank you very much for visiting, and for comment.
@ Sarah: It is cool, isn’t it?
Thank you!
David "CrazyKinux" Perry responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 9:16 pm →
Hi Vered,
That post was so well written, I don’t know what they could troll about; then again I’ve never understood trolls.
Love the blog, you’re now on my Google Reader RSS feed.
And thanks for dropping by!
Cheers!
CK
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Linda responds:
Posted: July 22nd, 2008 at 11:16 pm →
Vered,
I’m so very happy for you. She-Power interview, Zen Habits guest post — you’re going to show up on the cover of Vogue magazine next! Way to go! You deserve all the great notice you are getting.
Onward & upward!
Linda’s last blog post..Tips for Creating a Senior Safety Net for Our Aging Parents – Part 2
MomGrind responds:
Posted: July 23rd, 2008 at 9:18 am →
@ David: Thank you. My main concern was that I think many readers are frustrated when they find out that a new post on ZH was written by a guest. They look forward to new material from Leo himself. On the other hand, Leo himself does have his very own trolls that enjoy attacking him personally. Anyway, it ended up being a great experience.
@ Linda: Thank you! You are so sweet. I can’t say that being on the cover of Vogue is a goal of mine
but it IS nice to be recognized by other bloggers.
hank responds:
Posted: July 23rd, 2008 at 9:18 am →
MomGrinders to the rescue!
hank’s last blog post..Net Worth Update July 16, 2008 [$102,416.87(-9.57%)
Bamboo Forest responds:
Posted: July 23rd, 2008 at 9:57 am →
I just read your zenhabits article. Very well done. I found the notion that one should listen to their child, and not be so quick to give a solution very wise. Sometimes that is all they want, an empathetic ear.
Bamboo Forest’s last blog post..The 7 Stages of Procrastination
MomGrind responds:
Posted: July 23rd, 2008 at 8:09 pm →
@ hank: THANKS…
@ Bamboo Forest: Yet it is so hard to avoid giving them advice! But I am working on it.
RJ responds:
Posted: July 24th, 2008 at 6:49 am →
Awesome Vered!
Excellent post and congratulations on getting published on Zen Habits:)
Haven’t seen any trolls while scanning the comments section and with good reason. People will troll if they do not like you, and to borrow a Seinfeld quote,” How can anybody not like you?”
MomGrind responds:
Posted: July 24th, 2008 at 7:18 pm →
@ RJ: Why THANK YOU!
I am feeling quite likable right now. Which I shouldn’t care about by the way and am trying hard not to care about anymore, but I so do.