Comments on: Hate Mail: Apparently, I’m a Bad Mom

By: CutieGirlDiva

CutieGirlDiva — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 13:43:35 +0000

Vered, I happen to think that you are a great mom! You are not writing about your kids in your blog (or showing their pictures, even more dangerous) which is actually a positive, not a negative. If you do write all about your kids or show their pictures (which you don’t, thank God! )just remember that there are bad people in this world who could be reading about your blog right now, so be careful what you write!

P.S. Keep up the good work!

By: MomGrind

MomGrind — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 19:43:56 +0000

Thank you Erica.

By: Erica

Erica — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 19:20:02 +0000

I want to first say, I love your articles. They are actually the way how I found “Everything mom.” I had read an article of yours somewhere else and it lead me here. I know this is an old post but I would like to still comment if I may.
Ive been told the same things you have,”if your such a great mom,how come you never post pics of your kids or blog about them?”

My response to them is this:
My children are my life,and spend 24hrs. a day taking care of their every need. Blogging/writing is my “job,its my hobby,whatever”,it doesnt need to be focused on my children. Its a place for me to show ALL OF ME,not just the MOTHER side. I am many. I am a mom, a daughter, a partner, a mentor, I am many things. I refuse to carry guilt I dont dont deserve. I love my kids and I decide how much of them I will share with the world,because I love them so much I protect them and never use their faces to promote myself!!

Good luck!!,continue on your journey as I see you have and dont look back for anyone.

By: MomGrind

MomGrind — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 20:26:08 +0000

@ Margaret: It’s true. People allow themselves all sorts of things when they’re being anonymous.

My first grader… yes, good times. I don’t think other parents think we’re insane. I think they can relate, even if they won’t talk about it. For some reason, the fact that parenting is tough has turned into this big dark secret that no one talks about. But it IS tough and it IS challenging, and parents are not saints. We’re human. I think mommy blogs are great because they give us an opportunity to openly discuss these issues.

By: Margaret

Margaret — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 19:59:02 +0000

I say, “If you want to say something, you better come say it to my face.”

It’s easy for people to “flame” anonymously, without consequence. It’s kind of like flipping off a stranger who cuts you off on the road. The fun part is when that stranger turns out to be your neighbor.

So you can ask them, “If you would say it online, would you also have the courage to say it in person?” I say, stand behind what you write or don’t bother.

The easiest thing to do is ignore it.

BTW, I stumbled your post about the 1st grader writing the dedication about “cranky mom” and had to laugh– I had the same experience with my 4th grader writing about how mad I get and drawing a pic of me all frowny and yelling at her and her siblings– It was up at Open House. Good times! She said it was because I get mad when they make messes and I have to clean. I said, “Stop making the messes then!” I’m sure all the other parents think I’m insane and wonder how I got *such* a sweet little girl.

By: MomGrind

MomGrind — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 23:56:01 +0000

@ Bree: Thank you. I agree! I used to be devastated whenever I received hate mail. Now I just laugh at it. I know that the need to HATE has nothing to so with me, and everything to so with the hater.

By: Bree

Bree — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 20:24:13 +0000

I’m a first time reader here, and my email isn’t right because I don’t want spam, but I had to comment this.

The angry writer seems to know that you have kids, so you’ve obviously spoken of them, am I right?
So they already contradicted themselves horribly. “You never speak of your kids, but for some reason I know you have children, even though you never speak of them”. Haha.

Secondly, I am the SAME way. I am a part of a parenting board, and I also blog, and very RARELY do I speak of my children. Why? Well quite frankly, I don’t feel comfortable talking about and sharing pictures of my children on the internet with people I don’t know. I’m merely there to get that “adult” connection with those that share the same interest, or lifestyle. I always tell people, when I’m speaking… my children are a given to every bit of it. When I make a list of the most important things in my life, my children are a given. Like an “auto” button.

Some mothers just get a bit jealous of how others do their thing, and this is what spawns from it, a hate letter.

I love hate mail though, because it’s entertaining and even more so when it’s got horrible grammar and spelling. Those are always fun!