Comments on: Lipodissolve Nightmare

By: Ann Michelle

Ann Michelle — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 19:02:34 +0000

As women, we are always so busy beating ourselves up. I think we need to put the blame back where it belongs: on the people who do these things to people. I went to hell (and I have not come back yet) as a result of an elective surgical procedure. The guilt game started early. As I was coming out of general anaesthesia, he told me he had had to waste an implant (that was my fault?). Afterwards, I was lopsided, and he told me the surgery “brought out my natural asymmetries” (it’s my body that’s reponsible, not his bad job). He pretended I just an unhappy person who could not be made happy (I am unreasonable).

We trust doctors because they are doctors, and assume that the surgical procedures they perform are safe and that we are protected if something were to go wrong. Above all, we expect them to care about our health and well-being, because that is their job. As it turns out, they are no different than any other business, only their products and services can kill us.

By: Elliott - 21st Century Dad

Elliott - 21st Century Dad — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 04:19:14 +0000

@Vered – Wow. You really are great about responding to comments!

The images we see being trumpeted as “beauty” are unrealistic ideals. A woman who is confident and comfortable with herself is much more attractive than someone who is aspiring to an unrealistic ideal. Two of the sexiest women I’ve ever known wore a size 20 and a size 0.

Men are just as guilty too. I remember in college, one of the guys in my fraternity was made fun of because his girlfriend carried a few extra pounds (IMHO, in all the right places).

By: MomGrind

MomGrind — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 04:01:41 +0000

@ Dot: I completely agree we should never judge anyone for the choices they make – whether to undergo plastic surgery or age naturally.

@ Don Mills Diva: Exactly. It’s never risk-free and we need to be aware of that.

@ Natural: “i will leave with what i have and work on my belly, naturally.” Sounds like a good plan!

@ Kelly: I LOVE that website. Thank you for including it in your comment.

“The woman who wrote this sounds like she simply needed to adjust her attitude to her body now and learn to accept it’s post bay changes.” – exactly.

By: Kelly@SHE-POWER

Kelly@SHE-POWER — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 00:05:38 +0000

This is a horrific story and even more so because it’s one from a normal woman, who by the sounds of it has suffered terribly because she believed the media bullshit that a woman’s body can go back to what it was pre-kids. There’s this sense out there that if you don’t have a toned, trim body then it’s all your fault regardless of age, body type, motherhood or circumstance. Cosmetic surgery has been selling us for years on this notion they can fix us, but we don’t need to be fixed in this way, or maybe at all!

The woman who wrote this sounds like she simply needed to adjust her attitude to her body now and learn to accept it’s post bay changes. She says she’s always been thin, but didn’t like her mommy middle. Many women feel this way, and a lot of it is due to completely unrealistic expectations. Want to know what real women look like post motherhood? Check out this site:

The Shape Of A Mother

No air brushing in sight.

Thanks for showcasing this Vered. It’s really important women start to see through the lies and manipulations being leveled at us about how we should look.

Kelly@SHE-POWER

By: Natural

Natural — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 18:54:06 +0000

vered you had me scared here for a minute. i’m like what? no? you? i’ve seen photos of you and what belly. oh be glad you don’t have the belly fat. i do, but only two people see me in my bday suit and not outside this house. i can hide it well, but it’s still there. trying to get rid of it in the gym. seriously though, i’m not trying to live up to anyone’s image of what i should look like. i want to slim my belly for myself – for the vain reason of fitting back in to my clothes.

i’m afraid to get lipo. afraid of dying on the table. i’d like to have some boobs, but i’m afraid of dying on the table as well. i will leave with what i have and work on my belly, naturally.

By: Don Mills Diva

Don Mills Diva — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 02:19:08 +0000

WOW. That poor woman. It just goes to show that there is no such thing as risk-free cosmetic surgery.

By: Dot

Dot — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 23:43:59 +0000

My heart goes out to her. I think all women living in the U.S. (or maybe the world) have to come to terms with these choices and decide, sometimes once, sometimes repeatedly, where they want to draw the line. I don’t think we should judge any of us for the choice we make. We all have to decide how far to go in pursuit of beauty.

Just reading your words “my imperfections,” Vered, is an example of what we’re all told to do — compare ourselves to impossible ideals and then take steps to sand down the bumps and spackle in the dents — the imperfections.
I was watching As Time Goes By, a British sitcom starring Judi Dench (and others), and I noticed that she had the same weird neck thing that I now have — the aging neck is a sad thing to look at. Did I feel comforted that someone else had it too? Did I feel it couldn’t be so bad, because a star had it and she displayed it on TV? No. I felt sad for her AND me. Why do we have to be measured by impossible ideals of appearance?