Comments on: Working Moms are Bad Moms http://momgrind.com/2009/10/07/working-mothers-bad-mothers/ Sat, 05 May 2012 12:03:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Megan Gilbert http://momgrind.com/2009/10/07/working-mothers-bad-mothers/#comment-17798 Megan Gilbert Wed, 21 Oct 2009 16:18:42 +0000 http://momgrind.com/?p=3917#comment-17798 Women are really good at feeling guilty, if they are SHMs, not having enough finances make them guilty, if they work and something happens to the child in their absence they feel guilty. So leave them be, let them battle their own guilt privately without the unneccessary burdens of catchy headlines. Women are really good at feeling guilty, if they are SHMs, not having enough finances make them guilty, if they work and something happens to the child in their absence they feel guilty. So leave them be, let them battle their own guilt privately without the unneccessary burdens of catchy headlines.

]]> By: Open Loops 10/20/2009: Articles I Think Worth Passing Along | SimpleProductivityBlog.com http://momgrind.com/2009/10/07/working-mothers-bad-mothers/#comment-17769 Open Loops 10/20/2009: Articles I Think Worth Passing Along | SimpleProductivityBlog.com Tue, 20 Oct 2009 10:01:56 +0000 http://momgrind.com/?p=3917#comment-17769 [...] added on by attention-grabbing nonsensical study. A great response to the article can be found at “Working Moms are Bad Moms”. Hmph. Maybe someone should fund a study about how having a frivolous researcher for a parent [...] [...] added on by attention-grabbing nonsensical study. A great response to the article can be found at “Working Moms are Bad Moms”. Hmph. Maybe someone should fund a study about how having a frivolous researcher for a parent [...]

]]> By: Maxo http://momgrind.com/2009/10/07/working-mothers-bad-mothers/#comment-17718 Maxo Thu, 15 Oct 2009 04:04:59 +0000 http://momgrind.com/?p=3917#comment-17718 I think you are reading too much into this. There are plenty of very good, non-biased reasons to study this. It is important for us to know what the likely outcomes of various home arrangements may have on a child's life. Simply asking the question, "How do children do when moms stay at home versus when moms hold jobs" is not a biased question, especially if you don't know how each scenario will turn out. It is also worthy to note that the study wasn't released under the headlines that you gave. They weren't even released under the headlines of the article you sited. They where probably released in a science journal under a boring headline with lots of boring statistics, figures, etc. You cannot blame researchers for how media outlets report their findings. I once saw a story that headlines that NBA couches called fouls in a manner unfavorable to minorities. If one actually read the study the researchers did not find a statistically significant difference in how coaches of any color called plays against players of an color. However there was a statistically insignificant lean towards white coaches calling more fouls against Negro players. The lesson here is that what the media reports and what researchers found can vary drastically. Remember researchers are trying to bias towards facts. The media is biased towards sales, which leads them to biasing towards shocking headlines, not necessarily factual headlines. I think you are reading too much into this.
There are plenty of very good, non-biased reasons to study this. It is important for us to know what the likely outcomes of various home arrangements may have on a child’s life. Simply asking the question, “How do children do when moms stay at home versus when moms hold jobs” is not a biased question, especially if you don’t know how each scenario will turn out.
It is also worthy to note that the study wasn’t released under the headlines that you gave. They weren’t even released under the headlines of the article you sited. They where probably released in a science journal under a boring headline with lots of boring statistics, figures, etc.
You cannot blame researchers for how media outlets report their findings. I once saw a story that headlines that NBA couches called fouls in a manner unfavorable to minorities. If one actually read the study the researchers did not find a statistically significant difference in how coaches of any color called plays against players of an color. However there was a statistically insignificant lean towards white coaches calling more fouls against Negro players. The lesson here is that what the media reports and what researchers found can vary drastically.
Remember researchers are trying to bias towards facts. The media is biased towards sales, which leads them to biasing towards shocking headlines, not necessarily factual headlines.

]]> By: Dot http://momgrind.com/2009/10/07/working-mothers-bad-mothers/#comment-17696 Dot Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:43:33 +0000 http://momgrind.com/?p=3917#comment-17696 Can't really add anything to what you wrote, Vered. :-) Can’t really add anything to what you wrote, Vered. :-)

]]> By: Gunfighter http://momgrind.com/2009/10/07/working-mothers-bad-mothers/#comment-17691 Gunfighter Wed, 14 Oct 2009 11:04:33 +0000 http://momgrind.com/?p=3917#comment-17691 My wife, who went back to work when my youngest was 8 weeks old, has multiple advanced degrees, and a Ph.D from a swanky British university (sorry, I love to brag about her), but is a great mom. Despite the findings of the study, our ten year old daughter is exceptionally fit (she is her soccer/football team's goalkeeper), and eats healthy food. Can you imagine? As for the momy wars... well, I weigh in on the side of "do what works best for you". Career women shouldn't look down their noses at women who stay home pre force or by choice. Neither should women who stayed at home looke askance at women who choose to, or are forced, economically, to go back to working outside of the home. It's a big world, and one size does not fit all. My wife, who went back to work when my youngest was 8 weeks old, has multiple advanced degrees, and a Ph.D from a swanky British university (sorry, I love to brag about her), but is a great mom.

Despite the findings of the study, our ten year old daughter is exceptionally fit (she is her soccer/football team’s goalkeeper), and eats healthy food. Can you imagine?

As for the momy wars… well, I weigh in on the side of “do what works best for you”. Career women shouldn’t look down their noses at women who stay home pre force or by choice. Neither should women who stayed at home looke askance at women who choose to, or are forced, economically, to go back to working outside of the home. It’s a big world, and one size does not fit all.

]]> By: Cheryl Lynn Pope http://momgrind.com/2009/10/07/working-mothers-bad-mothers/#comment-17611 Cheryl Lynn Pope Sat, 10 Oct 2009 21:09:35 +0000 http://momgrind.com/?p=3917#comment-17611 I'm a work away from home mom. I work at a parenting organization. I think there is a balance, though. Even thouh you work outside of the home doesn't mean that you are a bad parent. As a matter of fact, it even adds to your experience as a parent. I’m a work away from home mom. I work at a parenting organization. I think there is a balance, though. Even thouh you work outside of the home doesn’t mean that you are a bad parent. As a matter of fact, it even adds to your experience as a parent.

]]> By: MomGrind http://momgrind.com/2009/10/07/working-mothers-bad-mothers/#comment-17591 MomGrind Fri, 09 Oct 2009 15:45:06 +0000 http://momgrind.com/?p=3917#comment-17591 Kim and Tess – exactly. Why pick on the mothers? Bunnygotblog, thank you! Marelisa, I agree – a mother's personal fulfillment IS important and does affect her parenting and her kids. Rowe, I guess it’s not about being home or working in an office – it’s about what kind of person you are and what are your life circumstances. Bare naked mummy and Kristie, I’ll join you in refusing to feel guilty. Kim and Tess – exactly. Why pick on the mothers?

Bunnygotblog, thank you!

Marelisa, I agree – a mother’s personal fulfillment IS important and does affect her parenting and her kids.

Rowe, I guess it’s not about being home or working in an office – it’s about what kind of person you are and what are your life circumstances.

Bare naked mummy and Kristie, I’ll join you in refusing to feel guilty.

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