I read with great interest a recent article in the Daily Mail (yes, I regularly read a British tabloid, I have my vices) titled “Why We Men Just Hate Sex & The City.” The article, written by James Delingpole, is extremely misogynist, and shows a deep fear of female sexuality and deep contempt towards older women. The author is “disgusted” by “middle-aged women having embarrassing sex” and would much rather watch young, plump, fertile women such as Scarlett Johansson.
It’s not an easy article to read, becuase the author is obviously being honest, and no doubt his point of view is shared by many men. As you read the article you can’t help but thinking that as men age, they do not lose their sex appeal, their power or their social status, but aging women are often deemed as unattractive and are expected to do the right thing, which is to stop being sexual beings, dress “appropriately” and quietly disappear into the background.
I hated the article, but I also hate Sex and the City, however I hate it for very different reasons than Mr. Delingpole.
Sex and the City, to me, represents an entire generation of women who have become slaves to consumerism. When Mr. Delingpole says, “Oh, and Manolo Blahniks: we don’t understand and we never will,” this is something I can actually relate to. While I don’t think that middle aged women are gross, I do think that spending your entire paycheck, month after month, on ridiculously overpriced designer shoes, handbags and clothing is disgusting.
There’s nothing wrong with loving fashion and admiring great style, but young women should have their priorities straight. Women need to save enough money so that some day they’ll be able to pay the down payment on their own apartment or house; they absolutely must have an emergency fund that would carry them through periods of unemployment; and they should stop wearing 5-inch heels on a daily basis. It shows disrespect towards one’s body.
As controversial as my next point might be, I also think that being sexually promiscuous, whether you’re a woman or a man, is not liberating or empowering. I think it is extremely risky and, in the long run, very unsatisfying.
So yes, I hate Sex and the City too.
Link of Interest: “The characters of ‘Sex and the City 2’ are flyweight bubbleheads living in a world which rarely requires three sentences in a row. Their defining quality is consuming things… This sequence is an exercise in obscenely conspicuous consumption…” Roger Ebert. Thank you Ruth of “Being Ruth” for sending me the link.